The very first rule about talking about Condoms is that you should never talk about them to your partner while they are not around. That means, don’t mention them to your mother, father, male friends, female friends, etc. Especially if you are on oral sex, then the chance of getting infected with a virus increases significantly. Even after sex, you should still talk to your partner about using condoms. Here are some good, quick tips that will help you.
First of all, be straightforward about your needs. Don’t try to hide anything from your partner. If you are used to using condoms and it has worked wonderfully for you so far, then share how you use them. On the other hand, if you are a new user and are not sure how to go about using them, then share what you know.
Second, remember that there are many kinds of condoms and each one works differently. Therefore, when you are talking to your partner, you must be able to identify which condom will work for you. You should also be able to explain the benefits and uses of each condom. Remember that you need to be as open as possible when you are talking about personal issues.
Third, always have an open mind. While talking about condoms, never be afraid to ask questions. This will help you understand more. Also, try not to be embarrassed when you ask the question. Remember, it is your health and your partner’s as well that you must take care of.
Fourth, if you are on a date and you find out that your partner is not using condoms, always let him or her know. Be willing to pay for the damages that could be caused during unprotected sex. You may not be able to pay for the medical costs right away but you should be able to pay for it in the long run. It is better to be safe than sorry.
Fifth, never talk about your own personal use of condoms if your partner is present. If you are both adults, then the subject is not appropriate. It is better to just leave the subject alone and focus your conversation on the fun you two can have together.
Sixth, respect your partner’s preferences. The use of condoms may not be their first choice but that does not mean they have to make use of them. You may find that some of your friends are already comfortable using them. Respect their choices and do not force them if they do not want to.
Talking about condoms is only an issue when you and your partner are having fun. Try not to take it personally if your friends make light of condom use. Instead, focus your conversation on other subjects that will make your evening more fun and exciting. Just focus on having a great time and you will not worry about being exposed as having unprotected sex.
Seventh, when talking about condoms always say the same thing to everyone. Do not talk about them behind their backs. Think before you speak. Say it to them and they will be able to see you have compassion and understanding towards the topic.
Talking about condoms should be done in a non-judgmental manner. You should respect your partner’s decisions regarding their own sex lives. Do not talk about sex at all if your friend is the only one having unprotected sex.
Finally, it is okay to use humor when you are talking about condom use. The use of humor can make the subject less serious and even entertaining. It can also take the focus off of you and onto your friend. This will help your friend see that you are a compassionate and understanding person who is interested in being safe.
Above all, talking about condoms should never feel like a chore. It should not feel like a chore or like you are trying to manipulate them into using the condom that you are offering. If you feel like you have to talk about your friends’ use of condoms then use humor to distract you or keep the conversation from becoming too personal. Above all, use good judgment when talking about sex and using condoms.